April 10, 2008...9:45 am

ten, being the worst

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i haven’t written
because i am under the assumption that our life
with or without cancer
(but especially without)
is not all that interesting
(to you)

certainly not any more interesting than anyone else’s life
with or without cancer.

but when events with cancer do happen,
and yes, even in remission, they happen
all the time,
i will write.

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i keep telling leanne to write down her patient stories,
though i’m the one who likes to write around here.

the other day she had a holocaust survivor come in.
i think it was shoulder pain
or back pain, or something like that.

and she probably asked him to describe the injury,
to take off his shirt (where she saw the tattoos
left over from the concentration camp),
to move his arm or his back
this way, and then that way,
and then like this.

and then she asked him the question
that she probably asks every patient:

“so, how would you rate your pain
from 1 to 10 with 10 being the worst
pain you can imagine?”

in my head he laughed.
(she said that weeks after, he came in again,
after a car accident, smiling, saying of the woman who hit him:
what do you do? she didn’t mean to).

and as he laughed,
leanne caught herself too.
the absurdity of the question
posed to him.

the quantity and intensity of pain
this man has endured over his lifetime…
and where does the twinge of a shoulder
fit in this equation?

how would she answer it
if and when someone posed it to her?

i’m sure she thought of that too.

7 Comments

  • Your assumptions are incorrect in my case. I check every day for some words from you, moreso now that you’re in the “without” chapters of your lives.

    Call me crazy, but the mundane details of everyday living have a particular beauty that I’m sure you could illuminate.

    Hope you’re well. We’ve moved and the new space is good. Lots of light, closer to the ocean. The breeze that greets me in the mornings is touched with a crispness that can only be taken from the water.

    Hoping your answers these days are all 1’s and 0’s.

  • You’re right, of course, about the depths of his pain. He has probably weighed many of the mundane annoyances of life through that filter, which invariably would have him pop up smiling. In my mind, that’s just the coolest kind of strength, and I just don’t know if it will survive as the Holocaust survivor generation pass on. I know we’ll never forget the lessons or the stories, but I think the concept of “Zahor” still comes up short on this one. Very happy to hear that Leanne is still in remission. Me too….unfortunately just a matter of time for my stubborn lymphoma type to come back, but no biggie for me. I’m just concerned about how my wife will handle it. My chemo was much worse for her than it was for me! Anyway, I digress. I don’t check the blog every day as I guess some others do, but I do have a trusty google alert that tells me when you post, and for the record, I never mind reading the words of someone who is so accomplished an observer of life as you. You have an eye for intangible beauty, and a very well-developed sense of irony and the absurd, and you can speak for all of us folks who are too lazy to share. Write on!

  • I check every day and have so for over a year now. How about some pictures of the family? I was getting worried but I guess no news is good news for you. I will keep praying for all of you.

    Misty
    NC

  • I continue to check because you and yours are a blessing to all of us. You have taught us all to take nothing, not even our next breath, for granted. I am glad that you still write. I hope that you never stop!

  • The pain continuum is indeed different for each of us. If only shoulder pain were as bad as it gets.

    You’re a beautiful writer. And a beautiful live-er.

    Thank you for the post.

  • I’m not certain how many times I’ve clicked on this link to check for an update. I’m betting the number is quite high, though. We want to hear from you guys, period. Cancer-free, especially.

    It blows my mind to think of that guy and all he has witnessed. To be able to look out into the world and still find joy is miraculous, after witnessing firsthand such insane violence and murder and suffering. How does one return to living after that?

  • Wow, I enjoy reading your stuff. I am in a very similar situation as my wife is the one with the cancer and it took me a whole year to get her to write anything!

    congrats on the beat down!

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